I so enjoy Brene Browns‘ work on wholehearted living. I feel she speaks to that deep place inside of us that wants very much to share but is often too afraid to show up. In her book Daring Greatly she talks about being vulnerable and the myths surrounding it.
Here’s the myth that spoke the loudest to me today:
“We can go it alone.”
She writes, “Going it alone is a value we hold in high esteem in our culture, ironically even when it comes to cultivating connection.”
I remember feeling this way years ago when my husband and I decided to move to Arizona even though our families lived on the coast.
Sure, we had friends in our neighborhood and I was involved in my community to some extent (mostly related to work), but I didn’t realize how incredibly important community was until I gave birth to our daughter Drew. I was a “professional”, already a doctor for several years, so I thought how difficult could having a baby be? Boy, was I in for a suprise!
My belief that I could “go it alone” left me feeling isolated and miserable and made me realize that the term “it takes a village to raise a child” is no trite saying.
It took a lot of courage, and a bit of time (perhaps a little too much time), to let others know how I was feeling, but taking the risk to be vulnerable made all the difference and showed me how important it is to to be connected to others.
Community is so important - even more so now in our digitally filled days!
Come be part of the community at Community Chocolate, join us for a class or an event, you never know what you may learn or who you will strike up a conversation with.
Community Chocolate…connection is sweet.